Yusuf has been having a few listening issues especially with Baba. MashaAllah Yusuf and his Baba are super close, but, Im starting to notice that Yusuf views him mostly as someone to play with instead of someone to listen to and respect. So, our plan of action is that Baba will do one worksheet [such as printing practice] and review the Quran that Yusuf is memorizing every morning with him. InshaAllah this will have many benefits: it will get Yusuf out of the bad habit weve let him get into of going on the computer first thing every morning, it will a good help for me, and it will give Yusuf more chances to have Baba as an 'authority figure' to respect and listen to.My best friend who comes from a family of 6 siblings told me how when she was growing up they would always have family meetings and I would really like to implement that into our lives. So yesterday we had our first official family meeting [all 4 of us] and alhamdulillah it went well. It lasted about 10 minutes and we just talked about how we are a family which is like a team and we have to work together and we have goals [note the use of sports terminology ;) ]. So we talked about who we want to make happy [ie. Allah] and what we have to do to keep each other happy. I introduced some new words to him such as respect and gentle and we talked about examples of each.
After the meeting Yusuf and I wrote up what we talked about on a bristol board and it is now hanging on the wall in our living room.
You can click on the picture to enlarge it. I noticed after I wrote it hat my writing is not straight.. but oh well = )
mashaAllah mashaAllah very good idea :)
ReplyDeleteThis is really nice mashaAllah! we started something like this too at the start of this year but its been really on and off...but after reading your post its motiving me to start again and make it a everyday thing InshaAllah. You know where I got this idea from... it was a lecture by Yasir Qadhi in which he talks about how his father (note he says his father had this rule) to sit for a bit together after asr everyday! So i put it down as the years new goal...need to refresh it inshaAllah...JKK for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful gift to give to your family.
ReplyDeleteMy best friend and her family would do this as well, her father would call it Taleem and everyone would gather around before/after Maghrib; regardless of what they were doing... the amazing thing was, if I was over, I would have to be apart of the taleem too! I think it was a great way to implement what you expect from your children as a family. It is a big wake up call for those who expect to simply send their children to Islamic Schools and think that there is nothing required in the home. For example, it is not up to the teachers and staff to make sure birthdays are not celebrated in school, so the same rules should apply at home, otherwise children get easily confused.
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